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Four Ways To Fall In L.O.V.E With Networking

Four Ways To Fall In L.O.V.E With Networking
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Networking and blind dating have a lot in common, especially when it comes to the fear of rejection.

Blind dates are uncomfortable, they feel forced, and people are always trying to sell something (themselves).

I am going to help you overcome all of those crappy feelings and show you how to fall in L.O.V.E. with networking.

When you meet someone for the first time one of the following thoughts usually goes through your head:

Can I trust this person?
Are they legit?
What does this person really want?
Is this person going to screw me over?
The four thoughts above are all negative and not helpful at all. I decided to create the acronym: L.O.V.E. to help you overcome those thoughts in your head. Let’s get started!

Leisurely: Take It Slow

Before I started networking, I thought it involved attending several events a week and collecting hundreds of business cards.

That mindset made attending networking events and meeting new people extremely overwhelming. It wasn’t until my mentor convinced me to attend one event and see what happened. It was the best networking advice I have received.

I am going to give you the same networking advice. Just start by attending one networking event and meet just one person who you will follow up with. Attending the first event is always the hardest. I promise it gets easier.

Most people would rather dream of attending three events a week than actually attending one single event. Don’t fall into that trap!

Opportunities: Find Networking Events You’re Passionate About

Attend events that focus on topics you enjoy and are passionate about. When you are familiar with the subject, it’s much easier to strike up a conversation.

Jot down three things that you are passionate about. If you are having trouble figuring out what you are passionate about, think about the types of books/blogs you read and what you like to do in your spare time.

Then head over to one of the websites below to find an event that is focused on your passion.

Eventbrite: http://www.eventbrite.com/
Meetup: http://www.Meetup.com/
Or Google “[Your City] Networking Events” to find website that lists local events that you might be interest in attending.
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The Secret To Enjoying Networking Is To Find The Types Of Events That Interest You (Click to Tweet)

For example, the majority of the networking events I attend are about entrepreneurship, social media, and marketing. When you’re building a network you want to look for people who have similar interests and goals.

Once you find the right events to attend, it won’t feel like networking.

View it as an Experiment

Over the years I have been to some terrible networking events. I didn’t meet anyone interesting, I couldn’t relate to the people who attended, and it felt like I just wasted my time.

There is a good chance that it’s going to happen to you. Just view it as an experiment and laugh about it. When you go to your next networking event, you can share funny stories about how bad the previous event was.

It’s similar to going on a bad date. It’s something you laugh about with your friends. If you are really having a horrible time after an hour, just leave. There is nothing that states that you have to stay the whole time.

Trust me, it’s a lot easier to just leave a networking event compared to a blind date!

Expectations: Keep Them Low

Never Try To Close On The First TransactionWhen was the last time you went on a date and expected that person to be the man or woman of your dreams? Sounds pretty ridiculous right?

A lot of people decide to go to networking events because they want to do one of three things:

Sell a product or service,
Meet someone who can offer them a job, or
Find people to invest in their new company
All of the above opportunities are possible, but not from going to one single networking event. These things happen after you build a relationship over time. You have to Follow up with them and then Keep in touch. You have to show them what you can do for them before they help you.

Click here to learn how to send a networking follow up email.

Click here to learn how to keep in touch with your network.

When was the last time you had a one-night stand that resulted in a successful relationship or something great?

Now it’s time for you to share the love.

Which letter resonated with you the most? Please leave a comment below. I promise I will read every one of them!

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John Muscarello is the founder of EndlessJobOffers a website that teaches professionals 25 and up how to build relationships with top performers, get jobs, and take their career to the next level.

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